The revolution that is women’s anger
As a girl, Society has basically hammered the ‘ if you don’t challenge anything, you would get your way’ repeatedly into my head. Our patriarchal culture glorifies the concept of being ‘more ladylike’ or ‘more feminine’. When a woman rejects status quo, she is seen a wild or better still angry .
Growing older, I realized the perceived norm is a bucket full of garbage. I am pretty sure someone reading this already assumes that I am an angry feminist, that would die alone as a cat lady but hear me out first. The truth is that women’s anger has been the catalyst for change in events that have/had absolutely nothing to do with the feminist movement.
I will highlight some examples in history (specifically Nigerian history) so as to buttress my point. The Aba women’s riot was to simply put a case of women being ‘angry’ at the unjust laws and actions of white colonizers. It was one of the major events that resulted in the independence of the Federal Republic of Nigeria. Funmi Ransome-Kuti was another personification of the strength that exists in women’s anger. She was one of the individuals at the forefront of the cry for independence of Nigeria from white oppressive rule. She was also involved in dethroning an Oba involved in sexual misconduct.
Sadly, history always finds a way to vilify women’s anger. Vital women stories have been watered down repeatedly or not even told at all. From Rosa Parks being portrayed as a weak and tired woman who gently refused to stand up for a white person in America to Funmi Ransome-Kuti, being reduced to the first woman to drive a car in Nigeria.
This pattern of story telling clearly shows that there is fear for women’s anger. Passive women don’t get their way, Instead ‘Wild’ women create change. Rather than telling women to bottle up their anger, why don’t we find a way to harness the goodness in women’s anger?