Relationships and SexThoughts


Great sex is supposed to blow your mind. It supposed to give you the feeling of satisfaction superheroes get when they defeat the villain(s). It makes you feel like you are gliding through the clouds. At the same time, it can get you stuck in a state of ‘sexual transmitted stupidity’ ( I wrote this in Amanda Seales voice) or ‘being dickmatized’. To effectively avoid this you have to know the age long difference between ‘ making love’ and ‘ fucking'( for a lack of a more appropriate word).

‘Making love’ is sex with intimacy. It is when sex isn’t just about the body or physical features. It’s when sex has more meaning than the physical connection. It’s basically meaningful sex. ‘Fucking’ on the other hand is a physical exchange centered around lust. It’s when you know there is no deep meaning behind these thrusts. I personally do not fancy the ‘fucking’ thing. This is because I believe sex requires structure. That is my personal opinion and I am definitely in no place to judge because we sin different. If you are going to get involved with sex, I would however ask if you are being safe. I am not just talking about physically (by using condoms, birth control etc) but are you also being safe emotionally and mentally?




If you do not study the situation, you will end up digging a pit of disappointment for yourself. It is necessary to know the difference so as to manage your expectations. Being cautious is essential so you don’t end up ‘dickmatized’ I use this word very loosely but it applies to both male and female.– when you swap the brain for the penis/vagina. You comprise on boundaries and rules all for the D/P. When dickmatized you basically become an irrational animal on steroids. Realize that great sex doesn’t necessarily translate to great sexual partner. The person may be all up in your guts making you speak in tongues doesn’t mean the person should have a concrete space in your life.

Before you convert someone you had bomb sex with into a sexual partner. Ask yourself  what is the level of nourishment you get from that particular person? Who is the person that this great sex is attached to? At the end of the day, great sex ; like all things should be managed with moderation.

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Hello people of the internet. My name is Ekisola Iretomiwa. I am a young lady still growing. I have a billion scars because I showed up for this thing called life. (I am literally quoting my fake therapist   ). I hope you enjoy the roller coaster that is my mind.


  1. Kunle
    February 8, 2019 at 5:32 pm — Reply

    Moderation is truly needed. Still, sex is a dangerous thing… Even pros treat it with reverence. Insightful post. Aids self awareness…

    • Iretomiwa
      July 11, 2019 at 12:17 pm — Reply

      Yeah moderation and safety is key.

  2. July 7, 2019 at 6:59 pm — Reply

    Personally I’m staying farrrr away from sex until the appropriate time. Too much wahala attached.

    • Iretomiwa
      July 11, 2019 at 12:16 pm — Reply

      I get where you are coming from, good decision

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