IS HE A PLAYBOY?
Today we are delving into the world of the playboy. A playboy is someone that devotes himself to pleasure , he basically doesn’t have commitments or responsibilities. I have encountered a zillion playboys in my journey on planet earth. This has forced me to have a ‘playboy/ grown male’ radar. These boys are getting really crafty so it’s getting harder to spot them. They seem to evolve with the seasons. I am going to be sharing a few criteria in my experience , to help adjust the calibration of your ‘ playboy detection meter’.
A playboy is very inconsiderate. He is not thoughtful of your time,of your plans, of your needs. He is typically going to consistently cancel dates at the eleventh hour. He blurs the line between selfish and self aware. Self aware is knowing your limitations and making decisions based on them. Selfishness on the other hand is knowing your limitations and making decisions despite of them. He will most likely only show up when its convenient for him and not as a way of being considerate.
Lack of accountability is a synonym of a playboy. He will typically make excuses for his thrashy behavior or he will flip it to make it your fault. If you try to solve problems in a manner that shows respect and he continually deflects, be very wary because that just might be a womanizer.
There should be a warning bells ringing when his words do not match his actions . When he says things but his words don’t line up with his actions, you may need to look closer. For example, he says he says he loves you but continually abuses you physically or emotionally , my sister you are dealing with a grown male coated with narcissism.
Does this boy in question fill all or majority of the playboy qualification? If yes, CONGRATULATIONS! HE IS A PLAYBOY. The truth is you have to notice the red flags and trust your guts. A playboy will always give you just enough crumbs to keep you holding on but not enough to grow. Stop living in the delusion of what you think love is. DON’T SETTLE FOR LESS. Please when you see a player, kindly ‘pick race’.