Thoughts

Comparison, the thief of joy

 

Hello my people, welcome to my blog. On today’s episode of a ride in my thoughts,I am going to discuss COMPARISON,THE THIEF OF JOY. According to the English dictionary, to compare- means to assess the similarities and differences between two or more things. In this festive season it can be really easy to get lost in the forest of comparison. The information age has made it worse. This is because of the high level of connectivity and high influx of information.Comparison occurs in either of two ways.

Scenario 1. You perceive that someone is successful, then you proceed to compare the whole book of
your life to the one chapter in the ‘successful’ person’s life.

Scenario 2. It seems that a person is failing, then you say to yourself ‘my life may be falling apart but at least I am not that bad’.

How comparison can ruin a life.

1) Comparison makes you unproductive: Comparison gives you a false perspective of your position in your life’s journey. Comparison either makes you think :

a) you are better than you actually are , this ultimately leads to lack of productiveness

b) you are worse than you actually are, this leads to indifference then you become nonchalant like Esau.

2)Comparison makes you wasteful: Seeds of your comparison makes you start competing with people that are not even running the same race with you.
You will inevitably find yourself buying things you don’t need and doing all sort of ridiculous things  so as to grow your ‘image’.

3) Comparison makes you unhappy: It makes you unhappy by putting you under constant pressure.
You begin to have the ‘destination happiness’. Destination happiness is the mindset that happiness is at the next phase or position or season.
this would make you remain in a state of exhaustion and lack of satisfaction.

At the end of the day, comparison is a really unhealthy trait that all of us have indulged in at different points in our lives. Comparison inhibits growth and should  not be entertained. The simple truth is that anything that is not growing is dying.

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Hello people of the internet. My name is Ekisola Iretomiwa. I am a young lady still growing. I have a billion scars because I showed up for this thing called life. (I am literally quoting my fake therapist   ). I hope you enjoy the roller coaster that is my mind.

34 Comments

  1. Ibsoft
    December 27, 2018 at 8:05 pm — Reply

    Important life’s lesson

    • Iretomiwa
      December 27, 2018 at 8:21 pm — Reply

      Yes it is. I am glad I was able to shed light on the subject.

  2. Ayoyinka
    December 27, 2018 at 8:35 pm — Reply

    Everybody in this age needs this reminder regularly. Thank you for this tom tom🎉🎊

    • Iretomiwa
      December 27, 2018 at 8:37 pm — Reply

      This reminder is more than necessary. I am glad you enjoyed it

  3. Silifa
    December 27, 2018 at 8:38 pm — Reply

    I concur

    • Iretomiwa
      December 27, 2018 at 8:42 pm — Reply

      I am glad you agree. Thanks for commenting

  4. 'kunle
    December 27, 2018 at 9:29 pm — Reply

    Deep words… Like the Chinese distinctions you made out in both scenarios. Sometimes, we seem to forget to tell ourselves that our race is just that. Our race… We really need to stop checking out the other guy’s race.

    Pretty chill post…. Love your first post!

    • Iretomiwa
      December 28, 2018 at 10:01 am — Reply

      The boss has finally blessed us with his comment. I am glad you enjoyed it

  5. DABIRI
    December 27, 2018 at 9:51 pm — Reply

    Nice piece, it can’t be explained any better than this!!!

    • Iretomiwa
      December 28, 2018 at 10:01 am — Reply

      Thank you. I am glad you enjoyed it.

  6. Beatsolace
    December 27, 2018 at 10:48 pm — Reply

    Amazing and well detailed points. Especially looking down on others thinking we are better, such person can’t move forward. Thanks mama

    • Iretomiwa
      December 28, 2018 at 10:02 am — Reply

      Thank you and I am glad you enjoyed it

  7. AA
    December 27, 2018 at 11:08 pm — Reply

    This is amazing.

    • Iretomiwa
      December 28, 2018 at 10:03 am — Reply

      Thank you and I am glad you enjoyed it.

  8. Olamide
    December 28, 2018 at 2:17 am — Reply

    This is a beautiful piece of article. Points well stated. Nice work👍

    • Iretomiwa
      December 28, 2018 at 10:15 am — Reply

      Thank you and I am glad you enjoyed it

  9. Magaritha
    December 28, 2018 at 6:22 am — Reply

    This is beautiful

    • Iretomiwa
      December 28, 2018 at 10:10 am — Reply

      Thank you and I am glad you enjoyed it

  10. Void
    December 28, 2018 at 6:59 am — Reply

    This is really nice, let make this grow

    • Iretomiwa
      December 28, 2018 at 10:11 am — Reply

      Thank you. I am glad you enjoyed it. I also hope it grows.

  11. Dammy
    December 28, 2018 at 7:19 am — Reply

    Apt!

    • Iretomiwa
      December 28, 2018 at 10:06 am — Reply

      I am glad you enjoyed it.

  12. Octacore
    December 28, 2018 at 9:11 am — Reply

    Nice piece. No go dey do pass yourself.

    • Iretomiwa
      December 28, 2018 at 10:04 am — Reply

      Thank you and I am glad you enjoyed it.

  13. Boluwatife Adewole
    December 28, 2018 at 11:24 am — Reply

    Intuitive thought pattern. A handful reminder of the basics of living… More more more

  14. Tegs
    December 28, 2018 at 11:31 am — Reply

    Nice one! Keep it coming.

  15. Adenike Odesanya
    December 28, 2018 at 12:22 pm — Reply

    Thoughtful!!

  16. Beebah
    December 28, 2018 at 3:05 pm — Reply

    True fact. Compete with one’s self and be contented.

  17. Shammah
    December 29, 2018 at 11:03 am — Reply

    I like the fact that you made mention of this generation and the Influx of information that we have to deal with… A great deal of time and effort should be placed on filtering information. Comparison will eventually occur when you know so much about someone else.. Sieve out the information that comes to mind, and you’d compare less… Thank you so much, Iretomiwa for reiterating this information.

    • Iretomiwa
      July 8, 2019 at 2:01 pm — Reply

      I am glad the blog post was full of vital information for you

  18. January 13, 2019 at 11:49 am — Reply

    If I’m not thrilled by this work of wit, then I’m up for a journey to support defeat.
    Gracias!

  19. July 7, 2019 at 5:25 pm — Reply

    You’re right, comparison can be unhealthy if you don’t handle it the right way! It’s nice to want to achieve things at a certain point in life, but we must always keep it at the back of our minds that we’re not all running the same race in this life.

    http://www.mindofamaka.com

    • Iretomiwa
      July 8, 2019 at 1:59 pm — Reply

      We are not running the same race for sure. We have to learn to define success properly to have peace.

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